“We control our reasoned choice and all acts that depend on that moral will. What’s not under our control are the body and any of its parts, our possessions, parents, siblings, children, or country – anything with which we might associate.”Epictetus, Discourses, 1.22.10
I’ve heard it said that the only thing in this world we can truly control is our effort. But thinking about it, we can go one level higher than that.
The only thing in this world we can control is our choices.
You can choose to put in as much effort as possible. You can choose not to be offended by something.
Likewise; not losing your temper, being in a good mood, crushing your addictions, and making a success of your relationships are also choices.
This is great news. Make the choice.