22 October 2017

Compassion without empathy...

doesn't really achieve much.

Sure, it’s great to know that there are people out there that care. And I know you want to help, but unless you can truly experience the problem as I do your efforts are most likely going to be wasted.

That’s why we have government initiatives that try to tackle a problem but fall short, costing much wasted time, money and effort.

Or that product that tries to solve a problem but is too complicated to use, too expensive and made of the wrong materials.

Or the doctor that thinks your might be over-exaggerating.

If ever you’ve heard: “His heart was in the right place”, or “She meant well...” then you know what’s just happened.

Genuine compassion with empathy? It’s a winning combo. It gets shit done.

by Nino Rosella
20 October 2017

Being present at concerts

I went to a concert the other night and I was stunned by the amount of people that spent the majority of their time recording proceedings on their phones rather than actually watching with their eyes. 

These people didn’t experience the concert at all. Their only memories of the whole event are going to be looking at their phones. I get it: you want something to remember, something to show off to your friends about on social media. Well, just take a short clip, one or two photos and be done with it. Also, most of these events are recorded by professionals - do you really think your shitty phone footage from row Z is going to trump their efforts? 

Be present. Experience what’s actually happening around you. Watch the performance intently. Feel the beat of the music. Sing along. Smile, jump, dance. 

After all, our experiences shape who we are. 

by Nino Rosella
19 October 2017

Only wrong 90% of the time

"Now, I don't have a perfect track record. No one does. But I'm pretty fucking good. On average I only get it wrong eight or nine times out of ten."

- Steven Stelfox in Kill Your Friends by John Niven


"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways which won't work."

- Thomas A. Edison on inventing the light bulb

I can't think of any examples of people who did anything great without first failing multiple times.

The key part of failure that lots of people forget, however, is to learn from the failures and mistakes along the way.

"A man who never makes a mistake will never make anything."

- Mr. Phelps

by Nino Rosella
18 October 2017

What we can learn from Joss Stone about tribes

I went to see Joss Stone last night at the Royal Festival Hall where she was accompanied by the London Philarmonic Orchestra.  

It was sold out. 

Not bad for someone who paid to get out of her mainstream music contract with EMI in her early twenties. The exact time she was full swing in the years that others would kill for. 

She wanted to leave because they were trying to make her something that she both wasn't and didn't want to be. So she left. She chose herself.  

She then began to keep a close tribe. Paying - at first - for her own music production and playing in venues a fraction of the size. But she did these things for her art. For her true fans. 

And just like Kevin Kelly says: she's able to make a nice living doing just that. In fact, I'd say she's making more than a nice living. 

So as we've seen time and again, service your true fans, stay loyal, work hard, and you'll be successful for a long, long time. On your own terms. 

by Nino Rosella
17 October 2017

Just fucking do it (JFDI)

Just fucking do it.

We spend so much time trying to find the shortcut or the easy way to do something.

We trick and cajole ourselves to get things done - all so that we don't have to deal with the sting.

We avoid things and put them off. We can deal with them another day. Too painful today. Or I'll do it when I work out the best strategy or when less people are watching.

It turns out, however, that a lot of the time the best strategy is to just fucking do it. Right now.

No delay. No pussyfooting around it. No stroking it gently. JFDI.

Sometimes we just need to brute force our way through it. Yes, it'll probably be messy, but we can tidy it up on the (much easier) second pass.

What have you been putting off that you just fucking need to do?

by Nino Rosella
15 October 2017

What discounting says

I have never bought a Dominos pizza that wasn't part of a deal or offer.

Conversely, I've never bought a dish from my local curry house from the offers section. This is because they don't have an offers section on the menu.

I always pay full price, and I swear it tastes better than the competition.

by Nino Rosella
14 October 2017

Getting an audience

Doesn't necessarily make your work better.

But it certainly makes you try harder, and for that reason alone makes it an act worth pursuing. 

by Nino Rosella
13 October 2017

Don't be an obstacle

You can't provide value at the same time as being an obstacle.

You've made a useful app, yet it's hard to use.

You've written a personal development book using intransigent, prolix prose.

The health service which drowns you in a deluge of paperwork to satisfy a needless bureaucracy.

If you want to help people you first need to get the hell out of their way.

by Nino Rosella
12 October 2017

Not for people like me

"There's no way that someone like me can achieve that."

Take a look around and if there's anyone throughout the whole of history that looks remotely like you - race, sex, demographics, social class, marital status etc - that's achieved the thing you want to do then you know for certain that it can be done.

Otherwise you're just making excuses.

by Nino Rosella
11 October 2017

Nobody missed me

I've written before (courtesy of Seth Godin) about how you know you're doing great work and making an impact: if you stop, will anyone miss you?

It doesn't matter how many followers you have on social media. Nor how many email subscribers. Ditto for page views.

If you simply cease to exist are there people desperately getting in touch to coax you back into the game?

Well, I decided to put this to the test. With this being a daily blog, on the 7th October I didn't post. Do you know how many people got in contact with me? Zero. 

Not even my mum, who I know reads this.

This only means one thing: there's much more room for improvement. I've come a long way, but there's so much further to go.

by Nino Rosella